“I was having problems with a cashier in the local bank – and I followed your advice of not only appreciating him but also appreciating the situation itself. I wrote things like “He was friendly that time I saw him…” and “I love that he’s given me no choice but to do the mental work and practice non-judgement and loving everyone.” Even though we had had some run-ins in the past, this last time I walked in he joyfully said “Happy New Year!” and beamed at me (and I’ve never seen him smiling before). It was as if he’d decided to ‘wipe the slate clean’, too, and now I look forward to going back there (and I’ve discovered he’s actually quite attractive, too- so who knows where that will lead).”
“It is apparent you’re living what you teach and it’s always good to be around the energy of the Centre. For years- actually, decades- my mum’s perceived judgement of me had constantly sent me into moments of anger and resentful silence when I visited her and my family. I say ‘perceived’ because I could see where I was contributing to it, though I was in a habit of blaming her and it was like a stuck record! Having delayed it for too long, I wrote down a list of everything I liked about her. I even spoke to my friends who liked my mum - and asked them to tell me what their experience of her was. After just half an hour of my first attempt of writing this down, I welled up thinking of how I had misjudged her and how she is a wonderful person. The next visit was completely different, I stayed longer than I usually do and I think I only got irritated one small time in the whole trip. I had a lovely time. I will be committing to this on other subjects, too.”
“I’ve been a lot more accepting of my children’s decisions. They’re adults now- but it took a long time for me to give up trying to advise them and change them. Since I put my focus onto my own changes, they seem happier, more on-track than ever and we all get on better in a natural, unforced way. The main thing I did was write lists of appreciation about them and consistently do the Universe List. It took time and quite a bit of going ‘forward and backwards’- but it’s undoubtedly working.”
“I had been struggling with the relationship with my parents for 15 years or more. It had made me frequently ill due to all the stress- and was draining. After years of self-improvement courses, which seemed to lead me deeper into the problem with no answer in sight- I found The Law of Attraction Centre. I did a couple of workshops and one-to-one sessions, and followed what you’d said in a group about acceptance and appreciation. Although I wanted so much to prove how ‘right’ I was- and saw any kind of acceptance or appreciation as ‘giving in’- I was so impressed with the testimonials that I decided to go for it. I can’t begin to tell you how much initially I didn’t want to find the good points in ‘them’- but what a great decision to do it anyway! Rather than the relentless fixing- I looked for the good in the situation (and the people involved), as it was. I felt a peace I hadn’t felt for a long time within just a week. This Christmas, after years of stress and arguments, I actually look forward to visiting my parents- which is a triumph in itself and shows how much things have changed. I feel more empowered and I realise how much my ‘war’ had been blocking my good in so many other areas. I recommend to anyone to go to the events and perhaps have a one-to-one session. It is priceless!”
“Thank you for the morning meditations and the workshops- they have changed my life- and I don’t say that lightly. My daughter was stressed out and not wanting to hear me talk about the Law of Attraction. And so I used the Universe List: ‘Allow her to feel fantastic about herself’, ‘allow her to find her own way’, ‘bring her wonderful, exciting new ideas and experiences’ and ‘allow me to fully believe in her wellbeing’. Then I settled in to my meditation. It took me time to get into the silence, but when I did, it was powerful. Just an hour later my daughter was uncharacteristically happy. She had just received a call from a friend and had decided to start a new business based on a subject that was one of her passions. I’m amazed by how powerful and quick the solution came in.”
“I really didn’t like my work colleague. She was spiteful, obnoxious, rude to people… the list of her bad points could go on and on. One day it got so bad that I realised it was time to make a list of her positive aspects. And it was really, really difficult. I couldn’t think of one thing initially! I persevered, knowing that this was my only way- she may have not deserved the list, but I did. Finally, I found a few things. And within less than a week of doing this, tonight, I have come home from work after having a great conversation with her- we really got on well. For the first time in the eight months I’ve known her! This may sound small- but it is the moment-by-moment that makes up our lives. This, to me, is a miracle.”
“I went to a new dentist that a few friends had ‘warned’ me about. Sure enough, she was very blunt and demanding- just as I had been told. Then I remembered something that someone had shared at one of the groups: ‘if you don’t like someone, they’re not going to like you’- or rather, ‘if you like someone, they always like you back’. And so I started to imagine her as the person she was instead of just a ‘grumpy dentist’. I thought, ‘she has hopes and dreams and wants to feel good, she’s got a stressful job and she’s probably got a lot on her mind- I’m sure she’s usually very likeable’- and good-feeling things like that. Then I thought of how talented she was (and admittedly she was good, technically, at her job). On my next appointment, I was met with her beaming and welcoming me in. She smiled, asked me how I was and the whole experience was great! It’s been the same on every visit- a pleasant and friendly experience.”
“I was having problems with one of my main suppliers- they are rude, didn’t do the job right and on and on. Suddenly I realised that this was an affirmation- and I was contributing to their poor behaviour. So, without thinking I suddenly thought of writing lists of appreciation of all their good points. This was for my own good- as I was feeling stressed with feelings of resentment. I sat to write and all the good flowed. I decided to send it to them as a ‘thank you’ letter. They were thrilled to have received this- and ever since my experience with them has been wonderful. It makes total sense that when you genuinely look for the best in someone, that’s what they will mirror back to you.”
“I was worried about a member of my family. I had brought him a stack of ‘self-help’ books, CDs and even tickets to lectures to help him- but he just wasn’t doing the work. He wasn’t listening to me! After your workshop, I realised that it was also me who wasn’t trusting the Universe- I was thinking I had to ‘save’ him all by myself. Of course me trying to control everything wasn’t working. So I stepped back, and wrote on the Universe’s side of the Universe List ‘Allow Mark to find his way… Please uplift and inspire Mark to feel good.’ I then got on with ‘my side’, distracting myself with the processes. Within two weeks he seems to be ‘getting it’ and genuinely seemed to be happier… and all by himself! I now understand that the best thing I can do for those I love, apart from praying for them, is to heal myself and shine as an example, rather than trying to get someone else to ‘do it’ when I’m not even ‘doing it’ myself!”
“My mother and I have struggled to get along with each other (as I’m sure many people have). She no longer lives in the UK and even when we would see each other for short times when I visited back home, it could be very stressful and upsetting. Along with my Appreciation Lists that I had started to write every day, I started to list each and everything that I loved about my mum. Noticing and focusing on the things that made me smile rather than any of her ‘weaknesses’. I also added to my Universe List: ‘Bring me a better relationship with my mother’. Things have improved greatly. A lot of it has to do with me ‘letting go’ of the things that I cannot control and just focusing on the good more than anything else. I feel very differently about her and our relationship and am going with the flow. Now that she is in town to visit, I’ve shared with her all the things I’ve learned through the Law of Attraction Process Groups and we do the processes together every morning. We spend time meditating and each write our own lists of Appreciation and Universe Lists. I think this is a real turning point for us and hope and pray that she too makes these processes a daily practice when she’s back in her own home. Of course we are still mother and daughter and VERY different people, but accepting each other for who we are and really taking a moment to ‘chill out’ is helping. The Universe List has helped me ask for the things that I need within me like ‘more patience, more understanding, the ability to forgive etc.’ and I think it is working. I’m definitely making the most of the time we have and being present rather than living in the past.”
I was very stressed about something. I kept thinking about this person who I thought was the source of my stress- and it was consuming me. I alternated between fear and anger at this person. I knew I ‘should’ do Positive Aspects but I didn’t want to. I tried reading books about being assertive and setting boundaries- but nothing helped. Eventually, I meditated on this and knew I had to love this person. So, gently, I began thinking about something small I liked about him. I liked his shoes and socks. I genuinely did! His shirts. He had nice eyes. Then I stopped, and got on with appreciating my life. After a bit of searching, I was able to go to his personal qualities- which I had previously thought as being ‘just awful’. I began to remember times he had been generous and made me laugh. Then- and it was just about five days since I did this- he called me, apologising and telling me that he’d been thinking about me. We resolved our differences and hope to meet up again soon.”
“Just to let you know that I have done some ‘lateral thinking’ at your ‘Opening to Abundance’ workshop. Whilst I will never say no to a new fat pay rise, what I was really wishing for was abundance of friends. In the last few years most of my London-based friends went their separate ways, and I have been missing my close support network very much of late. So, in the space of a week since the workshop: A friend had his flight cancelled and came to stay at mine for a day… One of my best friends who currently lives abroad had a last minute work commitment that took him back to London… My other best friend who now lives in Greece rocked up in London for the week ended saying her husband may be transferred from Athens to yes you guessed it, London. Welcome to the Law of Attraction for the globalised era!”
“I have a remarkable teenage son whose many positive qualities make him a joy to live with. His thoughtfulness, tidiness and attention to cleanliness are a joy to behold and his manners impeccable. He works hard at college, studies hard at home and in his report this week, tutors describe him as ‘a joy to teach’. He is remarkable because this is the same boy who for more than four years (yes four years) at secondary school, concentrated on bucking the system. His temper was frightening, he had a faithful group of friends, teachers were afraid of him and he never considered reading a book or writing a word. Just getting him through the school gate was an issue, keeping him inside was another. Well known to the authorities and lacking respect for anyone, my son’s offences were numerous and varied and I lost count of the number of times he was suspended/excluded for days at a time from school sometimes twice in the same half term. His school gave up on him, he underachieved in every subject and during our many meetings they warned that he would not be entered for any exams, yet the more they threatened the less he cared. Unaware of his whereabouts, waiting for him to return home day or night, home visits from police officers and attendance at police stations were not uncommon. At the time I was also reaching less than my full potential, I was in despair in several areas of my life and used every ounce of energy I had to try to fix myself as well as fix him. I tried everything to help him but he resisted and when a teenager resists it is very strong. I received advice from a number of sources and even my daughter accused me of leniency but I knew that they were pointing me in a direction that I didn’t want to go. I knew the kind of parent I wanted to be. My health suffered but in the middle of all this I thankfully discovered and believed in the seemingly simple yet effective teachings of Abraham Hicks. In my desperation I surrendered, decided to let go of trying so hard and use the power of my thoughts to make a difference. I hardly knew where to begin to find positive aspects related to my son as he offered nothing. I had to work really hard at it and in my determination began to find even the smallest things. I became skilled at appreciating absolutely anything and everything about him and I rejoiced in his response. Believe me, this really is a long long story but suffice to say that with just two terms left at school, he turned his life around, discovered an interest in his education, knuckled down with so much energy that he surprised everyone with his excellent GSCE results. He is now thriving at college, has changed his circle of his friends, developed an overwhelming passion for all things mathematical and is a grade A student loving his subjects, producing 100% results in his exams including an accelerated A level maths class. He talks of ‘when’ he goes to university something I never thought would be in his experience. My inner guidance got us through. Now people tell me that I’m ‘lucky’ to have such a wonderful teenager, little do they know…”
“Thank you for helping me bring my family together. After your workshop, I gave up ‘fixing’ everyone and trying to get them all to think more positively- and began to change myself, writing daily Positive Aspects of everyone. Within six weeks, without a word of trying to corral them into alignment, everyone and everything seemed to align with my optimistic vision. Another small thing- I had put ‘Bring me Lady Gaga’s new album’ on my Universe List. On that same visit to my family, my sister gave me a copy of this very album which she was inspired to buy me- and I’d never seen her be generous before!”
“I was checking my email and a friend who I hadn’t heard from for a few months popped into my head for no apparent reason. About ten seconds later, I received an email from the same friend. I love these sorts of experiences that remind me that we are creating our own reality and that the universe is lovingly taking care of us.”
“I had the idea to be more kind to those around me – and also to myself. I’m finding that the more I focus on making everyone around me feel great, the better I feel and the more good I attract into my life. I genuinely feel a lot happier and more ‘in the flow’ since my meditations and appreciation lists. An example of this ‘flowing in harmony with life’ was when I was in a coffee shop and saw a wonderful, free table near the window, so I moved. Just as I was clearing away my things a woman with a pushchair moved in to the seat I was leaving: ‘Thank you, you’re so kind’ she said, thinking I was kindly giving my seat up for the one she wanted. I smiled and realised how amazing it was that I was naturally inspired to move to a better place for me, which also helped her! I realised it was the perfect metaphor that when we get happy with a right intention, it helps everyone around us.”
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